In some ways, any conversation about the female orgasm is defunct before it even starts. After all, little is known about it, it varies hugely for every woman, and, for a lot of women it comes with no sudden physical ejaculation of fluid as it does with a man, rendering the entire thing a much more subjective and interiorised experience. And yet, perhaps this is all the more reason to talk about it, not only from a scientific point of view, but a socio-cultural one too.
The use of medical language mystifies human experience, increasing dependence on professionals and experts. If sexuality becomes fundamentally a matter of vasocongestion and myotonia… personal experience requires expert interpretation and explanation. Freud, as brilliant as he was, defined just two types of female orgasm— vaginal and clitoral.
But how do women know for sure if they are climaxing? What if the sensation they have associated with climax is actually one of the the early foothills of arousal? And how does a woman know if she has had an orgasm?
Here's how to inoculate ourselves against negative ones. Verified by Psychology Today. Evolution of the Self.
When Ginny Brown had her first orgasm, it seemed less intense than the ones she'd heard about. Since she'd been raised in a religious environment where sex was considered shameful and didn't experience her first orgasm until her mid 20s, she figured she just had to work through some emotional baggage to experience sexual pleasure "normally. Then, in a sexual biology class in grad school, she learned something she'd never been told before: Her way of orgasming—which she's dubbed "mini-orgasmic"—had actually been documented by Masters and Johnson the duo from Masters of Sexand it was one of three ways people orgasm.
But they exist, and with a little awareness and attention, you can get the Os you deserve, from the fireworks-on-display kind to the calm oh-my-gods. When you find yourself missing out on the Big O, there are three likely culprits: expectations, communication, and method. And alongside all of that, experimenting is required.
But once she paid attention, she realized she was experiencing multiple short, subtle orgasms—around three or four over the course of five minutes—and that she had, in fact, experienced them before. I felt like I could own that and own however I felt pleasure. This is the way I orgasm and trust me, you're not doing anything wrong.
As a society we carry a lot of entrenched ideas about sex. Perhaps one of the most deeply ingrained assumptions is that women can have multiple orgasms, and that men can't. But is that really true? They describe that by withholding ejaculation, men can experience "a number of sexual peaks.
So, you're intrigued by the idea of multiple orgasms. Wanting to experience one after the other is completely normal as is preferring to tap out after the first one and fall into a restorative post-sex slumber. Here, experts explain why many women's bodies are practically designed to have multiple orgasms, and sexual strategies for making them way more likely the next time you feel up for round two.
And when I did, I thought for a long time that I had some kind of sexual dysfunction. I enjoyed my sexual experiences, both solo and partnered, but I never had the kind of orgasm I saw in movies, porn, and even my female partners — the whole-body, wild ecstasy, consumed-with-pleasure moment that seemed to be the standard. I was pretty sure I was having orgasms; they were just a lot more low-key.